Conquer sexual anxiety

If you’ve been with your partner for a long time and have ‘gotten used’ to them, then it’s time to spice things up. Don’t let anxiety hold you back. Read on to know more...

Taking Stock Of Your Skills
One of the best ways to get out of thinking that you’re not any good in bed is to talk to your partner. Ask them what they love about you and your skills before and during sex. You may be surprised to hear the answers. Much of the ‘good stuff’ that we do is natural and we wouldn’t even realise that we’re
doing it. So you can count on your instincts to get you through any rough patches.

Feeling Your Way Through

Another great way to keep you confident as you’re trying to please someone new is to ask beforehand. That way, you already have an arsenal of ways to give them pleasure. If you haven’t done that, you can always ask while you’re in the moment. Ask them if this or that feels good. Where do they like to be touched? Is there anything that they don’t like? By having them guide you, you can stop worrying that you’re doing everything wrong. And people want to lead you in the right direction.

Building Up Confidence

Most of the time, our sexual skills come from trying something that you’ve never tried before. It’s amazing what jumping right in will do.

Do Your Homework

Take the time to read up on sex and ways to pleasure someone. Read magazines, websites and articles.

Find books and charts to the G-spot and other wonders of the human body. Learn as much as you can about the body and how you can please it.

Watch erotic movies and see what they do. If anything, you can always try to copy something. The more things you know, the better off you will be.

Fake It

It does not mean faking the orgasm! Act as though you know every trick in the book to make someone feel good. You would be surprised how many times you are right.

Pay Attention

By just listening to their breathing quicken, you can find a discreet little spot that needs lots of ‘attention’ or realise when their breathing slows that you’ve not where you need to be.

Realise that everyone wants to feel good, so they’ll make sure that you’re doing everything you can to ensure that.